Gareth Southgate says that young men need role models (Richard Dimbleby Lecture). Not ‘toxic’ role models but sportsmen like him. Sorry Gareth but you are way off beam.
The changes in society that have left young English men adrift are obvious. These changes are enormous and possibly unparalleled in recorded history. Within a period of fifty years males, females and children have had an entirely new set of relationships imposed on them. Laws were passed to make divorce easy, to ensure equality in the workplace, to normalise nursery education, to make it illegal to run most single sex organisations, to subsidise single parents etc. Women became three quarters of all teachers and taught children to treat the changes as an established order that was beyond question. The new society was assumed.
This new society has three major problems. The first is that women are afraid, they are scared on a daily basis. The second is that the society cannot maintain its population. The third problem is that having devalued ‘family’ it has devalued ‘nation’ so that people are detached from loyalty to family or state. Widespread fear is resulting in an increasingly controlled, Surveillance State. The loss of family breeds children with poor mental health. Lastly, the Matriarchy, having lost its sense of loyalty, has encouraged and condoned multiculturalism.
The state of the previous Patriarchy in England indicates how English men once felt. The Patriarchy put family and nation first. It rejected close surveillance, the family was seen as private. The role of the man was to work for, and support his family and the family was the fundamental social unit. The change to a Matriarchy means that the previous role of men is redundant. There are no role models that will fully satisfy English men because the male role has been removed.
The current state of English society is transient. The low fertility of English women means that English society will be replaced by one of the more fertile, imported cultures within 50 years. See The Future of the UK.
English men and women are in sharp decline (See No-one Cared that the English Died) because of the Matriarchy. English men will soon be a minority of men in the country and, at the individual level, are faced with either joining the soon-to-be majority culture, taking up football and ignoring what is happening, or rising up to reverse the Matriarchy. The third option is unlikely.
The Detail
What happened in the period from 1960-1990 that made women abandon the traditional family structure?
Until the 1960s women had spent much of their time washing clothes, dealing with nappies and sweeping floors. Suddenly the price of washing machines and vacuum cleaners fell. They were affordable to the working class family if the mother went out to work. Oral contraception is often implicated in this change but family sizes were low from the 1920s. There were less than 2 children per family (total fertility rate) in 1936 and less than 2 in 2000.
The initial change from home mothers to working mothers was expedited by the low wage rates being offered to women. As a result employers happily replaced men with women in the workplace:
(Source ONS)
As the employment rate for women rose by 20% the employment rate for men fell by c.20%. Some families became poorer as a result of the men being displaced from work. It became visible that family prosperity involved women working. The effect of this was to give women far more power over purchasing decisions in the family and more power in society.
As increasing numbers of women went to work in the second half of the twentieth century life became lonely for the women who did not work. Gone were the days when women could be seen chatting to each other over the garden gate. Fewer and fewer women desired to stay at home.
By 2010 young women’s wages had risen to a similar level to those of men. However, the large number of women who leave the work force to have children and family, along with other differences between men and women, has led to a persistent pay gap of around 12 % for women over 40 years of age.
(Source: Statista)
Employers and government liked the increase in the workforce and the possibility of keeping down wages through an oversupply of labour. Female pressure groups became far more powerful as women occupied prestigious jobs. Women who had chosen to have ‘careers’ (serving employers) over family were especially vociferous about the lack of any need for an established family.
Single parent families rose in numbers to about a quarter of all families.
(Source BBC)
The number of divorces rose dramatically, peaking in the 1980s:
(Source: Wikipedia)
The fall in divorces since 1990 is related to far fewer people being married.
The Divorce Reform Act reflected the desire of many women to lead independent lives. Few couples are now getting married:
(Source: ONS)
The net result of these changes is a dramatic increase in the number of children born outside marriage - now over 50%:
(Source: ‘Closer’)
Most of the legislation on women and marriage over the past fifty years has not taken any account of the emotional and psychological well being of children or men. It has mostly been directed at the ‘rights’ of women and gay groups.
Half of children do not have parents who are officially committed to staying together. A quarter of families have a lone, female parent. After divorce the children tend to stay with the mother until the next marriage or relationship. The mother is the key figure in the lives of these children of divorced and lone parent families. As she moves her children between relationships she is the only stable figure.
The female influence is exacerbated by the fact that 76% of UK teachers are female (See 76% of NHS and 76% of Teachers are Women). Boys have no male parent at home and no male teacher role models at school.
Both boys and girls are affected by the changes in women’s status in society. Babies who are too young to walk are dropped off in nurseries for a whole working day. Women put their career first, serving an employer’s financial needs, above the needs of their family. The girls are suffering from mild mental illness and the boys are becoming alienated (See Mental Illness Rises Rapidly).
It seems that women have become convinced that serving an employer, with the pat on the head, praise and status that this brings, is more important than giving love to children and their family. Only a resurgent belief in the importance of the family among women can cure the current problems. Women would need to believe that they work for the good of the family that they love, not for praise from employers. A commitment to the idea of love starts in the family.
Gareth Southgate believes that ‘role models’ can cure these immense structural problems in society.
The social problems created during the past 50 years cannot be easily cured. As a temporary fix boys and young men should form groups for their own well-being. These might be centred around sport but could also include games, hobbies, politics, religion and travel. A men’s liberation movement is needed to bring single men together.
Most importantly men should demand that their taxes are not used to finance single mothers except in a few circumstances such as widows. When the state took over the finance of single mothers in the mid 1970s, rather than putting unsupported children into adoption or care, there was a massive increase in single parent families. This can be seen in the graph above where the huge rise in births outside marriage began in the late 1970s (See BBC Article ). Many women believe it is their ‘right’ to have a family that is supported by taxpayers even when these taxpayers need this money for their own families. Men get no benefit from this behaviour and boys are harmed by it. Some women even use artificial insemination to have children at the taxpayer’s expense. About 40% of Universal Credit spending goes to single parents.
In Australia there was forced adoption for babies born out of wedlock until the late 1970s. The change in the percentage of children born out of wedlock was extreme when forced adoption was ended. This shows that many women will deliberately use the poor taxpayer to finance their families if they are permitted to do so:
Percent of Children Born out of Wedlock in Australia. Sources: ABS, Births Australia (various years); Commonwealth Bureau of Census and Statistics (1964, 1973).
We are living in the ‘Sci-Fi’ future of women dispensing with men - it is called ‘single parents’. Men are paying taxes to allow this.
Men are the victims of the modern matriarchy and should be encouraged to fight back by combining.
It is worth considering the end point of our current society. Superficially it looks like parenting will be handed to the State (tax payer) and children will be placed in institutions to allow their mothers to serve the needs of corporations and the public sector. However, the future is more likely to be Islamic. Female attitudes and acceptance of multiculturalism means that cultural groups that have high fertility will inevitably replace the English. See The Future of the UK.
See 1 in 4 Children Start School in Nappies
Where are women going now? Women have changed the whole of society. This change seems to be accelerating. In the US, UK and Germany, young women now take far more liberal positions on immigration and ‘racial justice’ than young men.
(Source FT)
These young women should guarantee an Islamic future for the UK as migration continues unchecked. See The Future of the UK. Islam may be advantageous for men. Quite why any young woman would be passionately in favour of this change is a mystery, perhaps they are simply more susceptible to indoctrination. Susceptibility to indoctrination is most evident in personal ‘virtue signalling’ rather than rationally justifying political beliefs.
My anecdotal experience and opinion polls show that British women are afraid. They would like a full Surveillance State that guarantees their security. The State would be a replacement father figure for themselves and their children. The UK will move along this trajectory until demographics removes low fertility British women from society. From 2035 onward English women will be doomed to being a decreasing minority and UK society and politics will be utterly changed as foreign cultures become dominant. (See No-one Cared that the English Died). This may be the epitaph of the UK experiment with Matriarchy.
No One Cared that the English Died
Over the past few months I have been probing social media about the end of the English. It is true: no-one cares.
Very thought provoking article, thank you. I would add that it's very hard to get a man to marry you these days or agree to have children. There is no societal push if you're British; I have 3 friends (2 British and 1 Canadian) who have children through sperm donors, and these mothers have no choice but to send the children to nursery and continue working. The alternative is an even lower birthrate than the abysmal one we have now.
Another thing is it's hard to survive on a man's income only. My ex and I costed it up and saw we couldn't do it. But don't believe that in our hearts a great proportion of British women wouldn't have preferred to have husbands and stayed at home with the kids!
It seems to me there are no mothers praised in the media, apart from perhaps royals, the praise is for female entrepreneurs, businesswomen and celebrities.
As you indicate, generations of British people now see divorce as the norm. I would say because of this ease of divorce women fear being left alone with the kids and sinking into poverty, while men fear having their kids taken off them and having to pay dearly for it.
I like the author but it is men not women who have abandoned the family. I have seen this pattern IRL (including personal experience) scores of time and very rarely the opposite. And it’s obviously true because it is women who have the drive to have children at a very deep and immovable level. There may be loser men out there who can’t get a woman but I’m a right wing man and so don’t care about that and also they should sort themselves out